I looked at a lot of photos of Tony Soprano and I didn't find any that showed him exposing the palms of his hands.
You wonder sometimes how a thing gets passed down from your
ancestors. Not just your way of dealing with things (do you yell and battle and
challenge? Or do you get depressed and bury your head in the sand?) but the gestures you have to express yourself (do you flip the
double bird and bare your teeth when agitated. Or do you go into a room and
quietly close the door? Click.) Say your ancestors crossed the plains in
covered wagons not knowing exactly where they were headed, say the guy driving
had a way of squinting one eye while he looked ahead, worrying that maybe
this wasn’t such a good idea after all. Flash forward 200 years later to you,
that guy’s grandson. You are with your fiancĂ© and she is going on and on about
something you don’t agree with. As she talks you start to tune out and stare at
her mouth moving. You wonder if you might be making a bad decision here and as
you watch that mouth moving, your eye starts to squint just like your great
grandpa (X1000) in the covered wagon.
Certain gestures come from even further back. When Harry gets
excited for example, when I say: Har, tomorrow we’re going to Six Flags… and you
can bring a friend… and go on all 17 roller-coasters… and eat sugar and fried
food, he starts to shake his hands at the wrist, first slowly, then faster,
then faster, until it propels him to walk round and round in a circle.
NnnnnGAAAA. ….Monkeys do this.
Cavemen, probably, did it. And now, here, this 10-year-old
person is doing it.
I didn’t teach him that.
My grandfather was Italian. Most Italians have held on to
every gesture known to mankind, but usually they get a heavy rotation of just
one or two in their repertoire. There are many different shrugs, for example, each
with a variety of meanings, but the main one is the head-tilt with the
shoulders drawn up to the ears, palms to the sky. Italian babies do this as
soon as they have control of their limbs. My grandfather’s thing was his sigh.
It could mean “I’m exhausted” or it could mean, “You disgust me so much that I
can’t talk about it” but the sound was the same. It was the sound a bus makes
when it pulls into the station and the air pressure is released, just before the
driver opens the door. It is not a sound you make for yourself, it is one for
an audience. And it is usually followed by a long, slow shake of the head.
When I see someone do this, some random person in the grocery store or at the Y, I think: my people.
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